Are You Asking For What You Want?
I sat next to the most annoying guy on the plane the other day.
He asked 20 questions to figure out what kind of drink he wanted to order.
He asked if someone would switch him out of his middle seat.
He asked for a blanket.
He asked me to turn my light off, even though I was obviously using it to read.
With every new request he made, this guy was driving me up a fucking wall.
I was busy fuming at him, when I realized the real reason why he drove me insane:
I felt like he was asking for too much.
And if I’m being honest, it goes even deeper.
I didn’t feel like I could ask for that much, too.
I had put limits on what I was allowed to ask for, and everything else was out of the question.
Because otherwise I’d be a bitch.
A pain in the ass.
Bothering the other person.
And just generally out of line.
I bet you know what I’m talking about, gorgeous.
Let’s just call a spade a spade here:
That train of thought is bullshit.
And unfortunately, it’s a thought process that plagues us as womxn, because we want to be nice.
A good girl.
Here’s why that mindset holds womxn like you and me back, gorgeous:
If you don’t ask for what you want, you might not ever get it.
You might not get that aisle seat.
The person next to you might not turn off their light.
You’ll sit on the plane freezing, even though they’ve got a blanket waiting for you….
….if you’d just ask for it.
I’ve committed to changing this mindset – because I’m ready to get what I want.
Are you ready to join my revolution, gorgeous?
Leave a comment and let me know if you’re committed to asking for what you want, when you want it.
It’s time to claim what we want.
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