“I’m really proud of myself.”
How often do you say that and really mean it?
My guess is, probably not that often…
…because if you’re being honest, it’s hard to feel proud of what you’ve done when you feel like you’re always behind/never doing enough.
When you cross something off your to-do list, instead of feeling proud, you likely focus on:
⏰how you could’ve done it faster
⏰all the things you still have to do that you haven’t done
👆🏿👆🏿👆🏿 that shit right there is why you don’t feel confident, or feel like you’re not good enough…
….because no matter what you do, you always tell yourself it’s never really enough.
I want to acknowledge that this isn’t a you problem.
This is a capitalism problem, because we’re all living in a world in which our value is based off of:
🛑making as much money as possible
🛑being as productive as possible
🛑rising as high in a company as possible
🛑getting as many awards and accolades as possible
Being ambitious is glorified, and if you’re not constantly striving to achieve more, you’re considered to be lazy, a failure, and an embarrassment to your family & community.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be ambitious and have goals, .
But what I am saying is that you’re never going to feel confident, proud of yourself, or like you’re good enough unless you start slowing down and truly reflecting on and celebrating all that you’ve accomplished already.
Celebrating yourself and your accomplishments doesn’t come naturally to most folks of color (thanks to generations of trauma) — it’s unfortunately a skill that you have to re-learn.
But it’s a skill that I teach every single day to my 1:1 clients.
We do it in small ways during our normal sessions, but me and my clients really slow down, reflect, and celebrate during our three month check-in calls.
During these calls, we go over your initial goals from when we started working together.
We see where we’re killing it, what needs a little more work, and where we need to focus more on during the next 3 months.
And nearly every single time, when my client and I take some intentional time to check in on their goals, they say this:
“I’m doing so much better than I expected.”
(Spoiler alert: when you actually slow down to reflect on your goals, you typically realize that even though you may still have more work to do…you’ve already done so fucking much to be proud of.)
Are you tired of feeling like you’re never doing enough…and instead want to feel proud and at peace with your accomplishments?
If so, we should talk about working together via 1:1 coaching.
During 1:1 coaching, we’ll work on helping you meet your goals, and feel proud of yourself the entire way.
We’ll also work on:
❤️healing burnout and creating work/life balance
❤️creating boundaries in and out of work
❤️feeling more confident speaking up
❤️cultivating a leadership style that you feel comfortable with
and so much more.
If you’ve been thinking about working together, don’t delay in scheduling your call.
My practice is currently full, but I have two spaces opening up in June.
If you want to claim one of them, schedule a call to discuss working together.