It’s been a minute since I’ve written a post.
(At least, by my standards!)
But I slowed things way down in my business this month to take care of my health.
To be honest, giving myself permission to skip my posts was the hardest part of slowing down.
It’s because I felt like I was being a “bad” entrepreneur by skipping these posts.
As entrepreneurs, we learn crusty “business rules” that are supposed to lead to success…
(Kind of similar to the crusty, white-centered leadership rules that you’ve likely learned to be a “successful” leader.)
…and so by skipping my posts, I was conditioned to feel like I was letting you down, hindering the success of my business, and not being disciplined or productive enough to have a thriving, successful business.
Now, I know what you may be thinking…
“That’s cool and all, but what the hell does this have to do with me?”
Long story short…everything.
See, if you’re anything like my clients, you have a ton of shit that you feel like you have to do every single day in order to be a “good”
…and the list goes on.
Some of your desire to be good may be wrapped up in the conditioning you’ve learned as a person of color in a white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchal world, similar to what I experienced the last few weeks in my business.
But for you, it goes even deeper than that.
You crave to be a present, supportive, and transparent leader, because you know what it feels like to not have that yourself…
…and you really want to give someone else the support that you didn’t have.
Your heart’s desire is to embody joy, patience, love, and understanding when it comes to your kids, because you want them to never have to question or guess how much they’re wanted & loved.
You want to give back to your elders as much as you can, because you appreciate so deeply how much they gave and still give to you.
You genuinely want to be creative, efficient, and exceptional in the work you do, because the work you do matters to you, and it also has the potential to impact others in this world.
You want to be “good” because your actions today honor the legacy of the folks who came before you, and it helps build a stronger legacy for the people who will come after you.
The problem, however, is that you currently feel so overwhelmed by the sheer amount of things that you need to do to be the good, exceptional version of you, that you’re living in a constant state of burnout and exhaustion.
It feels like there’s absolutely no way you can do it all.
This has created so much stress for you because you worry that when you don’t show up as your best, and get everything done, you’re letting someone else (or a lot of people) down.
And if we’re being really honest (which we’re always being here), one of the biggest reasons why you’re afraid of not doing it all is because you’re worried that it’ll confirm your deepest fears.
You know, that internal voice that you whispers that really aren’t and have never been good enough.
Well, I have good news and bad news for you, my love.
The bad news is you really can’t do it all.
Seriously – The expectations you hold yourself to are impossible.
But here’s the good news:
You can still be successful (and incredible!) leader, parent, partner, etc…even if you don’t do it all.
This actually might seem counterintuitive…but you’ll actually be a BETTER leader, parent, partner, etc. if you don’t do it all.
Seriously – by doing less, my clients have received promotions, raises, job opportunities, and have improved their relationships in the workplace and at home.
(Don’t believe me? Check out this video of my client Jaya where they talk about doing less and how it directly led to them being a better leader – and receiving acknowledgement from their organization’s leadership. If you’re more of an audio person, you can also listen to their episode on my podcast, here.)
Let’s talk about how my clients do less and find even more success.
It’s because the way that they show up when they are well rested, less stressed, happy, and more confident makes them such a better and more powerful leader in the moments when they are getting shit done.
When they’re well rested and less stressed, they’re able to:
🔥 make confident, clear decisions with ease
🔥 easily brush off things that used to stress them out
🔥 have more creative ideas in the workplace
🔥 share their ideas with ease
🔥 lead in a way that’s aligned with their values
🔥 be warm, engaging, and open instead of stressed and defensive
🔥 get shit done without dragging their feet, procrastinating, and avoiding the big tasks on their to do list
while feeling peaceful, happy, and in tune with their bodies and emotions on a day-to-day basis.
👆🏿👆🏿👆🏿 Does all of that sound incredible, but completely out of reach for you right now?
I promise you, this reality is possible for you, too.
The only difference between my confident, successful AND well rested clients and you is that they took a leap of faith.
They weren’t sure where they’d land, but they trusted:
👉🏿my approach to leadership, rest, and success
enough to take the risk of saying “yes!” to themselves and this work.
If you’re tired of your life and leadership feeling stressful, overwhelming, and you’re feeling like it’s time for you to risk it to get the biscuit (lol)…
…then you should schedule a call for us to chat about working together for 1:1 coaching.
I’ve opened up one spot for a new client in February – and it’d be an honor to discuss whether you should take it.
Let’s work together to support you to finally feel good enough, while getting the much deserved, rest, joy, and accolades you deserve.
P.S. In case you missed it, my entire podcast season this past fall was about resting more as a leader of color.
If you want to hear more tools, resources, and perspective shifts about rest, and want some inspiring stories about how my clients created more rest in their lives, you definitely want to check out my podcast, Revolutionary Rising. You can listen here