You Deserve to Be Mediocre & Thrive

Oct 12, 2023Revolutionary Rising Podcast

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If there’s one thing we’ve all learned as folks of color in white dominated societies, it’s this:

We are only worthy of being respected and lauded if we’re exceptional.

In this episode, I’m doing a deep dive on exceptionalism and how it impacts rest for leaders of color.

I’ll also be breaking down:

how to evaluate if you REALLY care about being exceptional, or if society just taught you to care
practices to help you feel safe even when you’re not “exceptional”
how to start choosing your rest over your work

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All my love,
Gieselle

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If you’re feeling tired just THINKING of the win

If you’re feeling tired just THINKING of the winter season…

…and instead want this winter to be the first where:

✨you truly feel balanced and stress-free

✨creating the boundaries you need with your family, friends (and yourself!) feels EASY

✨you are finally able to truly rest, be present, and resourced

✨feeling overwhelmed and burnt out feels like a thing of the past

…then you should get on my calendar to talk about 1:1 coaching right now.

These are the results I consistently help my clients to create within a couple of months, and if you’re ready, I can help you create these results, too.

I’ve got two spots left in my 1:1 practice, and they’re going to the first two folks who say “hell yes!”

So if you’re curious, click the l!nk in my b!o and get on my schedule.

I’ve got one spot left in my 1:1 practice, and it’s going to the first person who says “hell yes!” in December.

“Literally, who wrote this???” Me and my clie

“Literally, who wrote this???”

Me and my client were going through their original coaching goals from when they became a 1:1 client of mine…

…and after 3 months of working together, those goals just weren’t relevant anymore.

Why?

My client said it best:

“I just feel like an entirely different person.”

In three months of 1:1 coaching, they were feeling so much more confident as an entrepreneur and leader.

They had gotten rid of decades of money scarcity issues.

They were finally prioritizing themselves & their joy, and weren’t overworking themselves anymore.

They were surprised to see how much progress they’ve made in three months, but tbh:

I wasn’t.

It may be because, earlier that day, I had a check-in call with another client who said the exact. same. things.

More likely, though, it’s because I knew this would be how they felt after three months…

…because this is exactly what all my 1:1 clients experience.

Why?

I mean, I’m low-key good at what I do (even on a bad day)...

…but there’s other reasons, too.

1️⃣I see & honor all of you

When you work with me, there’s no code switching, and you can truly remove your “masks”.

That means we have more trust, more ease, and can go deeper so much quicker.

2️⃣I give you what you need, what you really really need

Have you talked about your feelings with a bunch of coaches, therapists, and healers… but nothing’s changed?

It’s because most of our obstacles in business & leadership are actually emotions, trauma, and fear that’s trapped in our body – you can’t talk your way out of them.

That’s why, in my 1:1 coaching practice, we do somatic, intuitive, and ancestral work so that you can overcome your obstacles… for good.

3️⃣I really, really care.

I am committed to every single one of my clients:

✨feeling so good that you don’t feel like you need me anymore.

✨meeting every single goal you have

✨feeling like this is the best money you’ve ever spent

Thinking I might be the coach for you?

Check out the link in my bio @gieselleallen to learn more about my 1:1 coaching.

I’ve got one spot left in my 1:1 coaching practice – and then I’m booked until the spring.

I recently went to a doctor and instead of getting

I recently went to a doctor and instead of getting the support that I need, I left:

😡gaslit

😡spoken down to

😡deeply upset

Why?

He didn’t view us as collaborators in my health.

He viewed himself as the “expert” and me as the student.

Which is ridiculous and steeped in white-supremacy culture…because sure, you’ve gone to medical school…

…but how could anyone be more of an expert on my body than me?

This doesn’t just happen in the medical field, though.

This can happen when you’re searching for a business or leadership coach, too.

Most coaches tell you: do exactly what I do, and that’s your path to success.

Here’s the problem with that:

That way of “coaching” insinuates that they know what’s best for you…

…when the truth is, a real coach (like me!) knows that the only person who knows what’s best for you, is well, you.

That’s why, in my 1:1 coaching practice, I never claim to be an expert, or tell you what to do.

What I do is collaborate with:

✨your intuition (feel disconnected from it? We’ll find it!)

✨your body

✨your lived experience

✨your answers

to find the right answers and next steps for YOU.

(Because what’s right for me, or any of my other clients may not be right for you.)

Once we do that work over and over again, you’ll stop seeking out experts with “the right answers” for how you can expand in your leadership.

Instead, you’ll know the truth:

There’s no point in seeking out answers from elsewhere – because the “right” answers you’ve been looking for have been with you all along.

Ready to stop looking for other folks to tell you what to do, and start listening to your intuition religiously?

Then you may want to get on my calendar to talk about coaching..

I’ve got ONE spot left in my 1:1 coaching roster – and it’s going to the first leader of color who snatches it up in December.

Want that to be you?

Head to the l!nk in my b!o @gieselleallen and schedule your call.

We live in a capitalistic society that creates imp

We live in a capitalistic society that creates impossible standards for us in our personal and professional lives.

If you do all of the things you’re supposed to do, you're a “good,” “respectable,” “worthy” member of society.

And if you don’t?

You’re lazy, worthless, and embarrassing.

That’s why you feel like you’re failing as an adult, sometimes.

It’s not because you actually care about most of these things that you have to do – it’s because it feels fundamentally unsafe socially and emotionally to not get shit done.

So, how do you overcome it?

You’ve gotta dive deep on a body level to:

👉🏿understand what your body is really afraid of

👉🏿learn what your body really needs to feel safe

👉🏿help you feel, on a deep, body level that it’s okay to not have everything done

It’s not easy work – but if you’re committed to doing it, it’ll change your life in so many ways.

You’ll finally be able to:

🔥rest and feel zero guilt doing it

🔥stop beating yourself up when you’re not being a perfect leader

🔥move through anxiety in the moment, instead of letting it terrorize you for weeks

🔥feel peace in your day to day life.

I know, because I’ve done this work over and over again with clients, and if you’re interested – I could support you, too.

I’ve got one spot left in my coaching practice and then my practice is full until February 2024.

So if you want in, click the l!nk in my b!o to learn more about working with me.

In today’s episode of the Revolutionary Rising P

In today’s episode of the Revolutionary Rising Podcast, I’m breaking down why it’s so damned hard for us to prioritize rest as leaders, specifically.

But even better, I’m also providing real life examples from a bunch of my clients to show how the principles we’ve talked about this season have led them to be even more effective leaders.

Why?

Because representation fucking matters.

So I want to make sure you see that you aren’t the first to prioritize your thriving as a leader.

Other leaders of color, just like you, are doing this work – without sacrificing success, financial stability, etc.

And not only are they thriving, but the people around them are thriving, too.

So head to the l!nk in my b!o and listen to today’s episode of the podcast – and let’s really help you see how you prioritizing your rest is good for everyone around you.

P.S. - Today’s episode of the podcast is my last of the season! So make sure you listen up now – because there won’t be any more reminders for you.

When I met today’s podcast guest, Aida, she had

When I met today’s podcast guest, Aida, she had already done all the traditional “firsts” – and had seen the truth:

Attaining the traditional success that a capitalist world teaches us to strive for ain’t always what it’s cracked up to be.

She had set out to start her own business and cultivate more freedom, balance, and rest in her life…

…but there was just one problem:

She couldn’t let go of all the lessons that she’d learned about productivity along the way.

She always felt like there was something to be done, and felt serious anxiety slowing down.

As if transitioning to entrepreneurship wasn’t hard enough, Aida was also making another massive transition well known for needing a ton of your energy, time, and rest:

She was a new mom!

So - how did Aida go from a new mom & entrepreneur who constantly felt like she needed to work…to truly become the first in her family who can prioritize themselves and rest?

You’ve gotta listen to today’s episode to find out.

In today’s episode of the Revolutionary Rising podcast, Aida and I talk about:

🔥how watching her mom work hard as a kid impacted her relationship with rest
🔥the burden and gifts of being “the first”
🔥the surprising thing that she ACTUALLY needed when her anxiety was telling her to go get shit done

…and so much more.

Aida’s been so generous in sharing the perspective shifts and exact tools that have supported her - don’t sleep on this episode!

Check out the l!nk in my b!o to listen to her story ❤️

#firstgeneration #overachiever #entrepreneurmindset #latinxpodcast #anxietyrelief #leadershipcoaching #itsokaytoaskforhelp #youmatter #mindestcoach

When my client Kim came to me, they couldn’t ev

When my client Kim came to me, they couldn’t even think about consistency…

…because they were struggling to be productive, like at all.

They felt like they were on autopilot with habits that didn’t serve them, and couldn’t see a way out.

They knew they didn’t want to return to the hustle & grind mentality, but they also needed to find a way to balance being productive with their values of liberation and rest.

That’s where our work came in - and this is the journey we’ll be sharing with you on today’s episode of the Revolutionary Rising podcast.

In this episode, Kim & I break down how they went from feeling counterproductive & stuck in numbing activities, to feeling like they’re simultaneously moving forward in their goals without sacrificing their joy, rest, and vibrant life.

We also talked about:
👏🏾how to navigate the shame of “failure” when making a pivot
👏🏾mental health, neurodiversity, and their impact on productivity and rest
👏🏾feeling like you have to be exceptional

And so much more.

Kim is truly out here living a liberated, restful life and provides some pretty powerful reframes & sermons in this episode, too.

So if you want a double dose of wisdom, don’t sleep on today’s episode.

You can listen to the episode via the l!nk in my b!o.

#takecontrolofyourlife #hustlementality #neurospicy #productivelife #letitgo #leadershippodcast #joyfulliving #liberated #sparkjoy

If there’s one thing we’ve all learned as folk

If there’s one thing we’ve all learned as folks of color in white dominated societies, it’s this:

We are only worthy of being respected and lauded if we’re exceptional.

We learn this by seeing:

😪which folks of color are celebrated in media every day
😪which folks of color are rewarded visas and which aren’t
😪how much folks of color have to achieve in order to rise to the same places as mediocre white men

In addition to learning this from a white-dominant society, we learn this message at home as well from parents who are well-meaning…

…but whose desire to keep us safe leads them to beat into us (sometimes literally) that being exceptional is the only way for us to maintain love and security.

That’s how you’ve gotten to this place where you care so much about being exceptional or competent…

…but also know on the flip side that all the effort you put in to maintain the high quality of your work makes you exhausted and miserable.

Sometimes, when the exhaustion really hits, you probably think:

“I wish I could do the least and ‘fail up’ like white folks.”

If this 👆🏿 is you, then you need to listen to the newest episode of the Revolutionary Podcast, “You Deserve To Be Mediocre”.

(You read that right!)

In this episode, I’m doing a deep dive on exceptionalism and how it impacts rest for leaders of color.

I’ll also be breaking down:
👏🏾how to evaluate if you REALLY care about being exceptional, or if society just taught you to care
👏🏾practices to help you feel safe even when you’re not “exceptional”
👏🏾how to start choosing your rest over your work

This episode is sure to be confronting, because I’m asking you a ton of tough questions to support you to release – or, at least ‘right size’ – your devotion to being exceptional.

But it also has the potential to create some serious breakthroughs for you, if you’re up for the challenge.

Know you need to listen to this episode?

You can listen to it via the l!nk in my b!o.

#overachiever #burnoutprevention #recoveringpeoplepleaser #deeprest #generationaltrauma #traumahealing #nervoussystem #podcastersofig #exceptionalism

If you’re being really honest, what do you want

If you’re being really honest, what do you want more than money and success?

What are you hoping those two things give you?

Tell me in the comments 👇🏿👇🏿

#moneystory #iamabundant #iamworthy #scarcitymindset #limitingbeliefs #financialhealing #successsecrets #leadershipcoach

Here’s something we don’t talk about enough in

Here’s something we don’t talk about enough in regards to rest:

Sometimes, you’re not exhausted because you’re working long hours, or spending a ton of time on something.

You’re exhausted because the thing that you’re doing, while short-lived, is emotionally draining.

That was the case for today’s guest on the podcast.

This client of mine was the Executive Director of a non-profit, and despite her hours being totally reasonable, she was wildly and completely burnt out when we started working together.

To the average person, this made no sense.

I mean, if you’re not being worked to the bone, you should be able to handle it, right?

That’s how my client felt.

She wasn’t just navigating burn out…

…she was navigating the crushing guilt and shame of being burnt out when she had so much privilege.

This feeling was also amplified because my client’s community was in the midst of a major crisis, and as the child of Immigrants, she not only felt like she should be holding more space for folks on the front lines – she wanted to.

But after spending her days in a role where she was:

❌constantly holding emotional space for folks in her organization
❌navigating the harm she experienced as a BIPOC leader
❌trying to protect the BIPOC folks beneath her
❌striving to honor her values of being a humane, caring leader

….she had no energy left for anyone, including herself.

I’m so glad to say that during the time that we’ve worked together, my client has 100% healed from the deep burnout she was experiencing.

…and in todays episode, she’s talking about how.

In this episode, we talk about:
👉🏿the surprising reason so many folks are burnt out
👉🏿a small practice that helped her stop feeling guilty/shameful for not doing enough
👉🏿how she stopped feeling shame when she didn’t have capacity for everything they “should” do
👉🏿the truth about emotional labor and how much it impacts you as a BIPOC leader
👉🏿how to do more of what you WANT to do instead of what you SHOULD DO

Check out this episode via the l!nk in my b!o

#begentlewithyourself #youarenotalone #selfregulation #burnout #mentallyexhausted #boundariesarebeautiful #podcast🎧 #podcastrecommendation

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